I thought I knew what humiliation was. I thought it was sitting there, watching my wife, Katie, on her knees in front of a massive black man. But then I learned it was more than that, so much more. It was laying there, listening to her tell me how much better he was than me. How he could do things to her I never could.

But today I finally learned just how far it could go. As the cage clicked shut, and I looked down to see it in place I knew this was true humiliation. I'd been caged by a white woman, and now there was nothing I could do about it