Drawing on his experience with hundreds of couples, the author of the bestselling "I Don't Want to Talk About It" explains how both men and women can escape the roles tradition has assigned them and develop the skills that lead to intimacy--learning how to hold the relationship in regard and how to speak, listen, negotiate, and stay on course.

From “a superstar couples therapist…and a maestro of interpersonal drama” (The New York Times), this book offers solutions for attaining the healthy communication and emotional intimacy we all desire in our relationships.

Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terry Real unearths the causes of communication breakdowns between men and women in this groundbreaking guide to relationship repair. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real—drawing on his pioneering work on male depression—gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised.

Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, How Can I Get Through to You? stands apart as a transformative relationship advice book—straight-talking, compassionate, and deeply insightful in its innovative approach to healing emotional wounds and rebuilding trust between partners

Cheryl Richardson author of Take Time for Your Life and Life Makeovers How Can I Get Through to You? is not a Band-Aid, it's a revolution -- a poignant and masterful guide that will heal our loneliness and isolation by empowering us to reawaken the natural state of closeness we all long for....I strongly urge you to read this life-changing book.